A lack of self confidence or self esteem appears to be part of our Human DNA to varying degrees. It doesn’t matter how much poise, or self belief you have acquired , there is always at some level. room to improve your self confidence and self esteem. There are millions of self-help books and groups, thousands of professionals who help with differenct aspects of shoring up our confidence and self-esteem. However, to get quick results we need some short-term fixes which will accelerate improvement.
There are 4 simple things you can do which will immediately help to develop your mindset which will improve your self confidence and self esteem.
1 – Decide to be your own best friend.
Which means completely ignoring the negative chatter in your head. It means being kind to yourself and realising you can choose to tell yourself that you are ok, at all times and in all situations.
2.- Find relief from negative emotions
Realise when you are feeling negative it is simply your internal guidance system telling you that you are thinking or believing amiss. Owning your feelings means not blaming others for how you are feeling, but realising it’s your interpretation or false beliefs of whatever is in front of you which is making you feel negative. This is empowering because you begin to realise that you can change your thoughts ideas and beliefs about how you are feeling and give yourself relief from negative emotions.
3.- What you focus on is what you get.
Focus your mind on what you want to continue in your experience, Pay no attention to anything, person, situation or internal dialogue which you do not want. In practice this means focusing on what goes well, spend time appreciating what you like, and finding things to be grateful for. Practicing appreciation for what you want crowds out that which you don’t want.
4- Forgive yourself for those times you get things wrong.
When you know better you do better. This also means forgiving others when they get it wrong. Life doesn’t come with an outward instruction manual. Life is like a PlayStation game we have to keep practicing a level again and again until we get through to another level. While we are practicing we need to forgive ourselves for getting it wrong.
So there are my 4 tips. What are yours?